The Present Moment

Life happens in the present, but so often we let it pass by unobserved by worrying about the future or dwelling on the past. It's easy to miss what's happening in the here and now, like when we are at work - we're looking forward to being on holiday, then when on holiday, we worry about work.

Mindfulness is living in the moment with your attention on the present, it allows you to realise are not your thoughts and you can observe them without judging them.  It takes practice, but there is a paradox because the expectation of reward leads to a future oriented mindset which subverts the process.  Ironically, letting go of what you want is the only way to get it.  It forces you to stop overthinking and into the present so that you can't worry about things that aren't there.

Another paradox is focusing on a problem to combat and overcome it often makes it worse.  The mind's natural tendency when faced with pain is to attempt to avoid and resist it which only magnifies it. The solution is acceptance, letting the emotion be there without judging it, holding on to it or pushing it away.  This helps you to understand it, then you can choose what to do next.

Thoughts are just thoughts, you don't need to believe them or do what they say. Being in the present moment takes us out of autopilot to start paying attention to the world around us. Being aware of thoughts means they don't control you, to be more in control of your mind you need to press pause, stop doing and focus on just being.

In A Guide to The Present Moment, Noah Elkrief states that our thoughts broadly fall into two main categories: psychological and functional.  Functional thoughts determine how to do things or solve problems, while psychological thoughts are the ones that decide whether something is good or bad, and it is these thoughts which can can cause suffering.  He argues that one way to experience the present moment is when we don't have or believe the thoughts that create unwanted emotions.

This is not about trying to get anywhere, just realising where you already are. It isn't a goal, because goals are about the future.  You just need the intention of paying attention to what is happening in the present moment.  It's not a destination and there is no finish line, you're already there.